Saturday, January 24, 2009

AWOL and maybe really gone this time

Well Annie is AWOL again and this time the rehabilitation center will not take her back if she comes back.  She took no meds (has a seizure disorder not to mention major mental health issues) and has basically ditched the long term waiver we worked so hard to get for her.  She didn't finish her SSI application and she has no health insurance.  The 36 year old man she left with, apparently she has had a 2 year relationship with him, is indigent and also brain damaged.  But because she is still her own guardian the police will do nothing.  

We worry, we wait to hear and we struggle with feelings of rage, inadequacy, and helplessness.  Although she is 19 she only functions at about an 8 year old age in terms of her understanding of reality, her ability to handle money or make important decisions.  We were in the process of trying to get emergency guardianship but this has also thrown that all out of whack.

I don't know what to say.  I can't even cry or scream.  I am numb.


Torina said...

ACK! I am SO sorry to hear this!!! I can only imagine what you are going through. This must be just devastating. I hope she remains safe and this guy she is with isn't sleaze.

Linda B. said...

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry. I thought we had it bad when our 16 yr old repeatedly ran away. I understand the numb feeling. I think our bodies get so overwhelmed with feeling that it shuts down. I hope this doesn't go on much longer. I pray that she somehow decides to come back. It's so frustrating when the police won't (can't) help us. Please keep us posted.

quilted family said...

thanks Torina and Linda for your concern. Part of what's hard is that she was at a rehab facility about 5 hours away from us and so we can't even go look for her ourselves. So we pray and we wait and we pray some more.